AFTER ABUSE

As there are many long term effects of domestic violence, it is still possible to return order to your life.Feelings of anxiety in social situations is very common.You may sometimes feel 'out of place' while people are talking,carrying on and socializing.You may even have panic attacks.It is very hard to feel or act like a 'normal' person after an abusive relationships.You may not trust people in general or question their motives without even realizing it right away.YOU ARE NORMAL!When you have learned a certain behavior over time it is very hard to just act different.It will take time to get back what you have lost.But you will be even better in the end.Every part of our lives define who we are today.It is up to you to accept who you are and grow from it.Some people take medication for their anxiety. While it may help one person it may not help another. I chose to directly deal with my anxiety but recognizing when it is happening,why it may be and how to naturally calm myself down.Either way this is one thing you NEED to address if it is happening to you.http://http://www.womentowomen.com/symptoms/anxiety.aspx?id=1&campaignno=anxiety&adgroup=ag1anxiety&keywords=anxiety+help This is a good link for information on that subject and treatments as well.It has nothing to do with domestic violence but it does have alot of useful information.
Another thing we need to work on is our relationships with the ones who surround us.Namely our children.Surely they have suffered through this too and their way of thinking and behaviors need to be addressed.They might have been abused also, or they might have suffered from the side effects such as neglect or emotional neglect.While you were in that stressful abusive situation did you ever find yourself reading to your child, volunteering at school, playing ball,going to the show and spending quiet time talking all on your own?If you were lucky enough to that's great! But many women unintentionally push their children to the side.Its time to mend these relationships.Better late than never.And you should try-for their sake and yours!